Solo Dining Tips: How to Eat Out Alone with Confidence

Does the prospect of solo dining bring you out in a cold sweat?

Eating out alone can feel awkward at first, especially if it is you are a first-time solo traveller, but it doesn’t have to. Whether you’re travelling or just enjoying a night off by yourself, dining solo can be surprisingly freeing.

Here are practical tips I’ve learned from my own experiences to make eating out alone comfortable and enjoyable.

Why Dining Alone Feels Uncomfortable

Let’s face it. Most of us will merrily go to the cinema or theatre by ourselves. Spending a solo afternoon pottering around a museum isn’t a problem.

But eating out alone? That’s a completely different ball game.

Many people imagine everyone is staring at them, or worry they’ll be bored while waiting for their food. The truth is that most diners are focused on their own meals, and a few simple strategies can make solo dining relaxing rather than intimidating.

Booking and Seating Advice

1. Plan your solo dining experience in advance

As a solo traveller, wandering around unfamiliar city streets at night in search of a good meal is not usually the best strategy, from either a safety or a culinary point of view.

Do your research. Check restaurants on Google Maps, TripAdvisor or your old-fashioned guidebook. I always ask my hotel for recommendations.

I like to walk by potential places to eat earlier in the day to check them out, but also to map a route from my accommodation. I also make sure that I have a few options up my sleeve if my first choice doesn’t pan out.

2. Make a table reservation

One of the first things I do is reserve a table if I can, even if it’s just for one. This removes the need for a Plan B.

Many people find that asking the host for a table for one is one of the most daunting aspects of solo dining. If you have a booking, the restaurant will expect one person, saving you the discomfort of declaring you are a solo diner at the door.

3. Eat out early in the evening

Eating at quieter times makes a huge difference. On a recent trip to Paris, I arrived for lunch just as the doors opened. There were only a handful of diners, which made it much easier to settle in without feeling self-conscious. Off-peak hours can make a solo meal much more comfortable.

4. Or make lunch your main meal of the day

Solo dining at lunchtime can be good practice for eating out alone at night. Lunch is more casual and as there are likely to be more solo diners you won’t feel like the odd one out.

One of the great culinary bargains is the set menu of the day that you find in some European countries, offering a limited two or three-course menu at a bargain price. These offers can extend into the late afternoon.

This can work well. For example; on a trip to Tenerife and when visiting Valencia, I took advantage of the menu of the day a few times, leaving the rest of the day and evening free for sightseeing and relaxation.

5. Choose your restaurant table carefully

Make sure that you are happy with where you are seated. Whilst I feel conspicuous in the centre of a restaurant, sitting tucked away by the toilets is not a joy either.

When you are seated beyond the main area of the restaurant it can be more difficult to get the attention of the waiting staff. There are few things more frustrating for a solo diner than struggling to get the attention of your server.

Don’t be afraid to ask for a table in a better location. As with any other diner in that restaurant, you are paying for your meal, and are entitled to choose a table to your liking, just as long as it’s not one displaying a ‘reserved’ sign.

Window tables are great for watching the world go by.

6. Or take a seat at the bar or counter

If you are after a more sociable dining experience, why not take a seat at the counter or bar? A bar seat or counter spot can also make your solo meal feel less formal.

I have found that it is often easier to strike up conversations with other diners or bartenders, and it’s also good for people-watching. Sushi restaurants are particularly good for this.

Making the Most of Your Time Alone

7. Treat yourself

Keep reminding yourself that you are on your holiday. Give yourself a pat on the back for requesting a table for one by ordering that rib eye steak, a fancy cocktail or a dessert that makes your coronary artery cry out for mercy.

8. People watch

You are not the centre of attention. Leave self-absorption at the restaurant door and indulge in people-watching.

People can be fascinating, from your fellow diners, and how they interact with each other, to the waiting staff dashing around.

Scan the room and guess which couples are on a first date or having an affair. Engage your waiter in conversation if you can, or talk to those sitting at the adjacent table.

They may have stories to tell and could give you top tips for your trip. All of this could be fascinating stuff for your travel journal.

9. Bring a prop or two

I always bring a small distraction. Sometimes it’s a book, other times a notebook for jotting down thoughts or travel notes.

However, you will find that as you get more comfortable with eating out alone, you will need to rely on these props less and less. In the early days, I used to be glued to my Kindle, barely looking up. Whilst I still carry it with me, I will barely make it through a chapter.

10. Savour every morsel

One of the things I love about eating alone is the ability to really savour the food. Without distractions, I’ve noticed I enjoy meals more and pay attention to flavours I might otherwise miss. On a trip to Rome, I spent a full hour enjoying a simple plate of pasta, and it felt surprisingly indulgent.

11. Exude confidence

It’s all about attitude. Transform yourself into the most interesting person in the room

Order yourself that Margarita or a glass of fine wine. Sip it slowly whilst surveying the room.

You can be that glamorous, mysterious individual watching the world go by, drink in hand.

My Other Top Solo Dining Tips

12. Start with baby steps

Like most things in life, the hardest part of eating alone at a restaurant is doing it for the first time. If you are still unsure about solo dining why not start with baby steps?

For instance, try a coffee shop for afternoon tea and cake and you will see others doing the same thing. Or go into a bar, order a G&T and lose yourself in a good book or in conversation with a stranger if you are very lucky.

13. Keep your belongings safe

One of the downsides of solo travel is that you alone are responsible for your personal safety, and that of your belongings. After a few friends had their bags and purses stolen in busy London bars and restaurants, I am super careful about where I leave my bag.

Either keep your bag on your lap or secure it to the leg of your chair. Whatever you do, never hang your bag on the back of your chair or leave it on the floor. You’re just asking to be robbed.

Equally, in busy restaurants, particularly sitting at outside tables, don’t invite passing thieves to pinch your mobile phone by having it on display.

My Pacsafe Anti-Theft backpack allows me to enjoy my meal, secure in the knowledge that my belongings are secure. Not only does it convert into a shoulder bag, but you can also fasten it around table or chair legs with its clever security clips.

14. Carry some cash

When you are travelling alone, you have no one to fall back on if things go wrong. So what would happen if you finished a splendid meal only to find that the restaurant does not, or cannot, accept cards, and you have no cash on you? Or what would you do if they did accept card payment and your card was declined?

Always be prepared.

15. Join a food tour

To my mind, there are few better ways to get to know a country and culture than through its food.

I’ve joined many food walking tours over the years and they have rarely disappointed. As well as learning about the destination and its cuisine, you try several eateries and meet other travellers in the process. 

After a food walking tour of Georgetown in Penang, hawker stalls no longer held any fear for me.

And Finally … Recognise That Eating Alone at a Restaurant is Not a Taboo

Solo diners are not social pariahs. Shout it from the rooftops.

In some parts of the world, solo dining has become – whisper it – trendy. South Koreans have come up with a special name for it, Honbap.

As of January 2026, there are more than 41k posts with the #solodining hashtag on Instagram. In other words, all the cool people are eating out alone.

Therefore, the first step is to ditch your pre-conception that, as a solo diner, people will judge you negatively. Going to a restaurant alone is not tragic.

Final Thoughts

Solo dining is ‘me time.’

Relish the opportunity to go out to dinner alone. Take in your surroundings, reflect on your day, write in your travel journal and plan the day ahead, whilst feasting on delicious food and wine.

I will leave you with a final thought.

All too often these days, people dining together will be glued to their smartphones, only engaging in sporadic conversation. This just goes to show that you don’t have to be a solo diner to eat out alone.

About Bridget

Bridget Coleman has been a passionate traveller for more than 30 years. She has visited 70+ countries, most as a solo traveller.

Articles on this site reflect her first-hand experiences.

To get in touch, email her at hello@theflashpacker.net or follow her on social media.

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